I've been reading Debra Dixon's "Goal, Motivation & Conflict" book. Well, I finally figured out why I can't sell anything! According to her "...if conflict makes you uncomfortable or you have difficulty wrecking lives of your characters, you need to consider another line of work." I read this and reread it. I HATE conflict! I avoid it. Always have. My dad was right about everything, even when he wasn't. I never thought to say any different, because I didn't like conflict.
As a grownup I avoid it if I can, but if I feel strongly about something, I will take a stand, and I will make myself heard. I've done that many times with my kids in school. I'm better facing a conflict if it is for my family and not myself.
I know my characters have to have conflict to make the story interesting to the reader, but now I wonder if my conflict avoidance is a hindrance to my writing??? Maybe not letting my stories be as strong as they could be? How does a person learn to enjoy conflict? Is there a class that teaches you to enjoy torturing your characters? If so, please, point me to it.